Dating 5-27-11

Let me see.... I was going to remember to not use real names and try to give more details. Right...

Well, it's feast again. That means I have 3 or 4 emailing me now, and I might be meeting one of them for a second date on Sunday. I'll call this one "S" and note that we spoke on the phone yesterday or the day before. She's a scientist and I respect that. In fact, I'm not one of those guys that like them ditzy. I'd feel silly dating a woman with a low IQ. What would we talk about? I mean, seriously, my friends would HAVE to meet her and what do you suppose they would say? Sorry if that sounds shallow, but shouldn't a ditzy woman look for either a rich man that wants arm candy or a fellow ditz?

Relocating is always an issue, and I have experience with this from my last serious relationship. Neither of us wanted to move, so we broke up after about six months. The distance wasn't a big deal at first, but one or the other of us had to drive 8 hours or we both had to drive 4 hours and meet in the middle. I got tired of doing that, and I think she did also. She actually tried to break up with me after two months, but I thought things were going OK and talked her out of it.

I'm still in contact with Chattanooga. We haven't met again, and our phone conversations are usually short, but I think I could talk her into seeing me again. The problem I have is that I can't always understand what she's saying. She did warn me that this might happen, and of course I didn't believe her because I've lived overseas and thought I was ready for English other than American. She speaks British English, not American [or even southern] English, and I have to pay careful attention to know what we're talking about. Hmmm. I think I should update my Rules blog.... If something is a problem early in the relationship, it won't go away. Be aware that it could get worse as the newness wears off. Is that already on there?

There's another one that is also of some scientific background ["M"], but we've only exchanged a few emails and nothing yet outside of Harmony. She said her favorite book was about primates and I thought "she must be a thinker like me." Also, she lives closer than Chattanooga.

I'm still emailing golf balls. That doesn't sound right, so I'll just say "golf." She's dating someone else and apparently preparing to sell her house. We talk about dating, home repair, medical technology, and that sort of thing. I know some other people in the medical profession as well so I have no trouble with that. I'm kind of hoping she'll introduce me to one of her eligible friends if M, S, or Chattanooga don't work out. I've had 26 first dates after my divorce and only one led to a relationship lasting more than a month, so the odds are not great. That being said, I think I'm learing [slowly] what I'm doing [and have done] wrong. That's most of what causes the list of rules. I break one of them and then realize: "Oh yeah, that was dumb," and then go write it down.

That reminds me. I have to go back and edit the rules blog again....   

Dating 5-9-11

And I'm back to feast. Well, kind of a feast. I'm emailing 4 or 5 women from the internet and the one from Chattanooga calls me occasionally. Unfortuately, there are problems with each of them. Why can't one be perfect?  Also, I say 4 or 5 because I really only hear from three of them regularly and two of them are uncertain. I'm thinking two maybes might be one yes?

Anyway, the three regulars are from Kentucky, Atlanta, and Nashville. The one from Nashville has kids younger than I'd like, the one from Atlanta is nice, but we have NOTHING in common as far as I can tell, and the one from Kentucky... well, to be blunt, she reminds me too much of my mom. The other two... One is from Alabama and I met her once. In fact, she's the golf ball girl if you've been reading my previous posts. She's dating someone closer to home, but has agreed to keep corresponding with me, and I find that I like this arrangement. I don't hope for more, but I wouldn't say no either, if you know what I mean.

Oh, yeah, there's another one from Murfreesboro that kind of off again on again emails me. She might have called me today on my cell, but if that was her, she didn't leave a message. I'm always getting calls and texts for the previous owner of that number, so I don't automatically answer when I get a call. Also, I leave the phone on vibrate when I'm at work [that's the rule, after all], and then often forget to put it back on ring later. Now that I think about it, I'm on vibrate now and the phone is in the other room. I gave her my number, but asked her to leave a message if I didn't pick up.

I want perfect. Or anway, perfect for me. I don't want to settle for Ms. Right Now. I want someone with a similar background to me so we can communicate. Someone that I can respect, but not someone that does not respect me. THAT can be tricky... I dated a PhD last year, and we had issues, so I'm thinking I'd rather date someone that has, at most, a graduate degree maybe?

Also, I don't want someone that is more social than I am. She'd be dragging me to parties and I'd just want to shoot myself. THAT can't be good for a relationship. I've seen that sort of thing in others.